New Year’s Resolutions, Decision Making, and Goal Setting
Over the holidays, I came across a very insightful post on the goalsguy.com site. Titled ‘The Ten Commandments of Goal-Setting,’ the post is a perfect accompaniment to your New Year’s Resolutions. Goals Guy nails the most important point in his first commandment, ‘Thou Shall Be Decisive.’
Success is a choice. You must decide what you want, why you want it, and how you plan to achieve it. No one else can, will, or should do that for you.
Making choices instead of letting life’s circumstances lead you along is fundamental to getting where you want to go. By making choices, you become a create-or. No longer will you be sitting on the sidelines as things happen to you. Instead, you’ll be piloting the flight of your life towards any destination you desire.
If you do nothing else this year, deciding to make real choices can improve your life exponentially. Are you ready to take the plunge and be an agent of choice this year? Take a look at the commandments and see if you can integrate them into your life this year.
January 6th, 2006 at 12:23 am
It’s good to decide what to do in new year.What somewhat i am confused about goal setting,i think goal setting makes people uncomfortable,somewhere he feels underpressure.So I think we should not decide our goal,should not plan and let the life flow.
that is the best way to live the life.
January 6th, 2006 at 1:13 pm
Ankit,
I agree that the feeling of being under pressure is uncomfortable. Goal setting doesn’t have to create a that feeling of pressure automatically. By making choices, setting out some results you’d like to acheive, and being honest about where you currently stand, you can let go of the process of getting to your destination. When you have acheivable, measurable goals that are broken down into bite size pieces, you can spend your energy on acheiving those results.
Most often, discomfort or anxiety arises when one feels overwhelmed by a goal that seems big or too far off or when one focuses on process and not outcomes. Thus, you must break this big goal into smaller goals that you can acheive in a short time period. Repeating the process of thinking of the outcome you’d like to create and being honest about where you are currently will create a positive tension that will propel you towards your destination.
Simply yielding to the flow of life’s circumstances will more likely leave you frustrated than satisfied. That said, some degree of acceptance and withdrawl of self-criticism is important too. For me, a crucial life lesson has been learning how to be honest with myself without getting overly negative. I’ve struggled to accept the richness of my strengths as well as my weaknesses, but doing so has led to more peace and more satisfaction with my life.
January 28th, 2006 at 8:52 pm
Setting goals as a means of creating the life you want is right on, Setting the right goals for YOU is even more important, in that you want them to be goals that will create the life you want and not goals for others. Whatever you decide to do will be the first step in creating your life.
Go for it!
February 24th, 2010 at 7:39 am
Certainly got us thinking here are work, expect a few replies later